Plenty of Fish, the popular free dating site, has been used mostly for hook-ups. But can it rebuild its image?


Screen shot 2013-05-30 at 6.56.22 PMThis past week, Plenty of Fish announced that it would eliminate the option of “Intimate Encounters” on its online dating platform. The reason? According to founder Markus Frind, he was receiving too many complaints from female users of the site who were getting harassing messages from men. He wants to refocus the site back to its original strategy: helping people find real relationships, not hook-ups.


In a message to users, he shared that out of the site’s 3.3 million members, only 6,041 are women looking for no-strings-attached trysts. In addition, he said that “the ones with hot pictures are mostly men pretending to be women.”


This was a bold admission for the founder of such a successful online dating site (the site is free for users, but pulls in a significant amount of money each year in ad revenue).


Mr Frind said in his statement: “When I created POF, I wanted it to be all about finding relationships with the right person. For the first seven years, this worked really well, I got the site to 10 million users without any employees and PoF was generating a ton of relationships.”


But Frind said he would now be making changes and eliminating the Intimate Encounters option, adding: “Intimate Encounters on POF can be summed up as a bunch of horny men talking to a bunch of horny men pretending to be women.”


Other changes include putting limits on age gaps. Those members who are more than fourteen years apart are not allowed to message each other. According to Frind: “There is no reason for a 50 year old man to contact 18-year-old women. The majority of messages sent outside those age ranges are all about hook-ups.”


I’m curious to see if any other online dating sites take similar actions to prevent their sites from being used primarily as hook-up destinations rather than relationship-seeking sites. Many sites guard against things like inappropriate photos and harassing emails. But ultimately, it is up to members of the site to decide how they will use it. And free sites are more susceptible to misuse than paid sites.


There are certain measures that every dater should take before using an online dating site. Plenty of Fish has made it a little easier by rooting out fake and sleazy profiles, but there are still a few things to be aware of:


“Hot” pictures. If the pictures are lude or sexy (showing intimate body parts or making sexual gestures at the camera), likely the profile is fake. If this is what you want, there are plenty of porn sites out there. But if you want a relationship keep this in mind.


Getting virtually intimate. If your date is telling you how much he wants to have sex, or how he’s fallen in love with you just by your emails, beware. If you’re intimidated by his pursuits then tell him thanks, but no thanks.


Meeting in private. If you’re meeting an online date, please meet him in a public place. Don’t let him pick you up and don’t meet him at a private house (his or a friend’s). You don’t know him or what he wants. Meet everyone in a public space first.



Looking for something new to do this summer? Try these creative date ideas.



Screen shot 2013-05-18 at 7.06.18 PMWho doesn’t love summer? The warm nights, cool water, smell of suntan lotion, the tropical drinks. It’s no wonder we dream about summer flings – it’s the perfect season for romance and spontaneity.


Which is why it’s fun to step out of your standard coffee or dinner date comfort zone and do something a little out of the ordinary. Namely, take advantage of the weather while you date.


Following are some summer date ideas that might inspire you:


Outdoor concerts. Many cities capitalize on the longer, warmer nights and invite local artists to perform outdoor concerts. Do you live near a pier, a lake, or downtown? Chances are some kind of live music is going on, so check your local listings and get the details. Then pack a bottle of wine and a few decadent snacks to enjoy with the music and you’re on your way.


Roadtrip it. If you’re at a loss for things to do in your own town, there’s nothing wrong with hopping in the car and seeing where the GPS takes you. Spontaneous road trips are the stuff romance is made of. Pick a destination and see what you find – even if it’s not all that spectacular, there are unique places in every neighborhood. Explore, that’s the point.


Get outdoors. Do you like tubing, hiking or biking? Instead of sitting down somewhere when you’d rather be moving, engage your date. Meet at a hiking spot you’ve always wanted to try. Ride bikes along the lake or boardwalk. Grab a couple of kayaks or inner tubes and hit the water. There are plenty of activities to do, it just depends what you’re up for.


Restaurant crawl. Is there a main street in your city or town where all the local hotspots are? Instead of making a reservation at one place and sitting down to dinner, make a night of it with a restaurant crawl. Try appetizers and cocktails in one place, tapas for dinner at another, a decadent bistro for dessert, and top it off with coffee at a cozy café or after-dinner drinks at a nightclub or bar, if that’s more your style.


Food trucks. Much like the restaurant crawl, food trucks have become increasingly popular across the country. It’s a more interesting and cheaper way to eat – gourmet grilled cheese to lobster rolls to Vietnamese burritos. During the summer they congregate together in certain neighborhoods where other activities might be going on, like farmer’s markets or county fairs.



Theatre under the stars. Do you love dinner and a movie? Take the idea outside. Pack a picnic with a bottle of wine, a blanket, and check your local listings for what’s playing at a park near you. I live in L.A., where outdoor movie night is at a famous Hollywood cemetery, so you can imagine the horror flicks and classic films they screen there, which are way better in this setting than in a boring theatre.


Wine tasting. Want to relax and enjoy your Sunday afternoon? Head to a local winery for some tasting. If you live near vineyards and can stop by a few, even better. In the summer they might have events, like food pairings or special wines for tasting. Best of all, you can relax and enjoy the scene.


Have fun!



Screen shot 2013-04-29 at 4.24.53 PMNot getting enough responses from your online dating matches? Try these tips and see what happens.


Joining an online dating site and creating a great profile are the first steps in the online dating process. You want to generate intrigue and appeal to get people interested enough to stop and look at your profile. But while these are important steps, how you use an online dating site once your profile is visible determines your success. That is, you want to be attracted to your matches and you want them to respond in kind to you.


So what happens next? How do you gain the most out of your online dating membership? What do you say in the first email? And what if you don’t get any emails or matches from people who you want to date?


Don’t panic. Most people have questions when they begin. In order for online dating to work in your favor and be a positive process, you have to put a little work and energy into it. You can’t expect to sit back and watch the emails and matches come rolling in. You have to engage and reach out. There are plenty of people to meet, so following are some tips for getting started:


Check in often. It’s good to have a routine so that you can check your online dating site every day for at least ten minutes. If you can only do it over lunch or late in the evening, then check in at those times. It doesn’t matter how long you’re logged in at any particular time, just that you check in often enough to send emails and chat with a few people on a daily basis. People move fast in the online dating world, so if you wait a week before checking in you’ve likely missed some good candidates (and your profile won’t show up as “active” unless you’re logging in regularly).


Send more than a dozen emails. Try three dozen emails. I know it seems impersonal, or laborious, but dating is a numbers game to a large extent. The wider you cast your net, the more people you’re able to correspond with and potentially date. It will be worth it – and it takes up less time and money than going to a bar and approaching women one by one.


Don’t send spam. Read profiles. Women can tell right away if you’ve sent the same email out to fifty other women. Mention something specific in her profile as a conversation starting point. You don’t have to make it a long email, but show that you took some time to read about her and that you’re interested.


Be classy in your approach. Most women don’t want to open an email addressed to “sex goddess” or “super hottie.” Again, you could have sent this to fifty other women. Plus, a woman wants to know that you actually want to meet her, not just any woman looking for a guy. Another tip: try to be emphatic in the beginning and pick something that stands out in her profile. (i.e. “Wow!! I love that you managed to sail halfway around the world when you were only 25, or “Gorgeous! Your photo stopped me – your eyes are stunningly beautiful.”) It’s not overkill, it’s effective.


Get over rejection. Everyone deals with it when they join online dating sites. Many people won’t respond to your emails. A smaller percentage end up in actual dates. It’s just a process – and let’s face it, nobody who is single has time to meet everyone they email or “wink” at on a dating website, so don’t feel rejected if some people don’t respond. Just move on to the next attractive person you see, and reach out.


Best dating site reviewsSo what are the best dating sites?  Anyone who has considered signing up for a dating site to meet that special someone can become very confused and disillusioned very quickly because of the amount of dating websites to choose from.  There are so many good ones out there that it can be difficult to choose the best one.  Some of the dating sites are very specific in the people they cater to and others are general in that anyone can join.  The following are reviews of the 10 best dating sites:

  1. – is probably one of the best well known of all the online dating sites which is why it made our number one. It has a very large, varied, and active membership base. There is a search engine that you can use to find matches including custom searches.  The site does not make matches for you but there are those who prefer to do their own searches.  This is considered a general site as there are no predetermined qualifications
  2. EHarmony – The second best well known of dating sites is  This site does not allow searches and instead uses their own patented algorithms based on extensive personality questionares plus profile match filters you pick such as city/state/age info to deliver about 5 daily candidates and matches to you.  There are no search tools so those who would rather keep their profile private can appreciate this feature.  This website is for those who are looking for a committed relationship and is not for those who are simply trying to meet new people. The founder, Dr. Warren Clark is a well known Christian relationship researcher that spent years researching what compatibility factors were most important in making marriages and long term relationships last. He is the one that patented the relationship matching algorithms. This is part of what makes stand out, as its true goal is to have you succeed in a long term relationship. As a result of this strong focus on long term relationships and marriage, over 50% of the members are Christians.
  3. – For those singles that are over fifty, you may not want to wade through a bunch of profiles that do not match your age expectations.  With this senior dating site you can be assured that those matches you make are of a more mature age.  This site has video profile, custom searches and a match me compatibility feature.
  4. Christian Mingle – Christian Mingle as its name implies is for those singles that are looking for other Christians to date.  This is another of the specific dating sites as it caters only to those who have certain religious beliefs.  There are search engines that allow singles to search out those who share the same moral and religious values.   While other sites do allow you to search for those who share the same morals and religious beliefs, on this site you know everyone is Christian.
  5. JDate – Another site that is based on the religious views of their singles is JDate which is for those who are from a Jewish background.  This is the most popular and best Jewish Dating site online, and offers matches as well as a search function for those who prefer to find their own dates. This is dedicated to those who are looking for a serious relationship.
  6. Perfect Match – Perfect Match may not be one of the more well known of all the general dating sites but it does offer quite a bit to its users.  You can search for your perfect match or you can allow the site to determine which matches are perfect for you.  It is also one of the easiest sites to navigate and offers a wide variety of people to choose from.
  7. – This website is dedicated to those who are looking for a committed relationship and who want to date one person long term.  It does not allow for searching which means all profiles are private unless the site has made a match for you.  The matching system is complicated but effective. It is the main competitor to, as they both use detailed personality and interest questionares, and deliver the matches right to you on a regular basis. That’s really a time saver if you do not have hours every day to search. Normal sites allow members that do not match your requirements to message and IM you (to spam you at times), which can be annoying.
  8. – Those who have children may have found that they are having a tough time getting to know other singles who do not mind children.  With, all the singles are single parents so this is not an issue.  There are no matches and instead single parents search for their own matches based on the profiles of others.
  9. Be Naughty – Finally, for those who really are not looking for a commitment or a long term relationship, there is Be Naughty.  Be Naughty offers the chance to simply date and to make new friends.  This does not offer matches since the point of the site is a no strings approach to dating.  Instead, users can search for those singles who they find attractive and there is no pressure to start a relationship with the first person that they meet.
  • Zoosk – One of the best free dating sites is Zoosk and they have a huge data base full of people just waiting for a date.  They offer both searches and matches based on algorithms for those who want the best of both worlds.  This is considered one of the more entertaining sites because it is not based on commitments or relationships, but dating too.
  • While there are a wide variety of dating sites that made our top 10 list, there are still others out there that do offer the same search criteria and matching algorithms as these sites do.  Some are good sites, and some are better. The best dating site for you is the one you are most comfortable with, gives you success in finding dates online, and offers you value.

    The point is to find the one that you feel comfortable using and one that will offer you the most choices.  After all, it is very rare to meet only one person online and find the person who you spend the rest of your life with.  While it is easier than meeting people in real life, there is some trial and error that must take place.  This is not to say that it cannot happen, but realistically you may have to date a few people before you find the best “one” and decide to settle down.

    So, you’ve decided to try the wonderful world of online dating by joining one of the singles dating sites. That’s great, as many people who have used online dating services before have found fulfilling relationships. In fact, statistics show that more and more singles are going online in search of romance and they are checking out singles dating sites in record numbers.  What once was considered a taboo is now one of the most accepted and successful ways to meet new people.

    Now, I am assuming your goal is to meet new people. I mean, there are many reasons to go onto an online dating site, but for most people it is to find some type of relationship. If this description fits you, it then begs the question: Which online sites give you the best chance at finding the relationship you seek? Well, there are a number of ways to determine this, but you first need to keep in mind one all-encompassing idea: be realistic.

    Singles Dating Sites

    Today singles dating sites offer many ways to be successful in finding a partner through online dating, but you do need to be honest about not only what you want, but who you are. After all, it doesn’t makes sense to invest time and possibly money into finding a relationship only to learn that it isn’t what you want or that it doesn’t fit you. This is not a knock against you or a suggestion that you are somehow inferior, only a reminder that self-honesty is a prerequisite to successful online dating. Don’t forget, online dating poses unique challenges – ones that can tempt you into a counter-productive world of fantasy.

    There you are, sitting safe and comfortable in your own home, checking out hundreds of different guys or girls, but none of the usual worries or constraints of time, distractions, or self-consciousness are there. In effect, you start to feel like you can simple pick and choose whomever you want. While this is somewhat true, it can also lead to being overly idealistic, which makes success that much harder. By being realistic about your wants and yourself, you can better choose which dating site gives you the best chance of finding what you truly seek. So, what type of relationship are you honestly after?

    Types of dating relationships for singles

    First, let it be known that many sites will ask you what type of relationship you seek. This eliminates those groups of people who aren’t seeking the same type and thus increases your chances of success. However, some sites are geared more toward one type of relationship than others, so while you can go to a high end site looking for a one night stand, you chances of finding it aren’t as good as if you were to go to a site that specifically caters to that type of relationship. This is to say that you shouldn’t feel pressure thinking there’s only one site out there for you. You just need to find the ones that are better suited for your relationship goals.


    If you are looking to find a husband or wife through an online site then you’ll definitely need to do research first. This is not to say that most sites are devoted to booty calls, but it is to say that there are many sites with a casual and carnal approach to introducing people. It’s assumed that if you want to find someone to spend the rest of your life with, you’ll want a site that provides a comprehensive screening, which can include a background check.

    Now, a background check may not be necessary for your spousal search, but the idea is to find a site that requires more than just a few profile pics. That said, know that the sites with reputations for being thorough are often the ones which require a subscription. These subscriptions can range anywhere from $30 to over $100.

    Serious relationship

    If you are looking for a serious (but not too serious) relationship then you have more sites to choose from. That is, if you are looking for a good relationship that’s not necessarily marriage bound then you’ll need to consider nearly all of the dating sites as they all cater to this demographic.

    This means determining which sites seem to have the people most like you or what the kind of person you are after. This extra research should include not only exploring the site to see what kind of people are on it, but also reading the various online dating forums.

    Casual encounter

    The last general category is for those seeking a casual encounter. Now, there are degrees of casual encounters, which means that some sites offer them more exclusively and aggressively than others. This can mean the difference between finding someone to enjoy an ongoing physical relationship with or a more specific relationship type (read: deviant). Like the other types of relationships though, you’ll need to review a few sites until you find one that offers you the best opportunity to get what you want.


    With all this talk of research, it brings up another factor you need to consider when trying to determine which site is for you: investment. This means not only how much time you are willing to invest in a site, but also how much money.


    As stated earlier, there are numerous sites that have subscription fees. Now, how they charge is important because some require a greater financial investment than others. Most of these pay for sites have a recurring monthly charge, but some of them also have an initial fee. In addition, some sites will simply renew a subscription without consent (you agree to this as part during the initial sign up), while others will require you to agree to a definitive enrollment time in order to charge you the complete amount up front. Obviously, all of this needs to be taken into consideration when choosing an online dating site. It is recommended though, that if you are new to online dating that you don’t invest too heavily in any one site until you know it is the site for you.

    These pay for sites are also geared toward a certain demographic. Now while they are not prejudiced to any one group, you’ll find more professionals, career minded, and traditional values people on these sites. Which is not a knock against them, just another thing you need to consider when choosing. If you are looking for more non-traditional people or those that aren’t seeking marriage then you may be better served at another site.


    Another consideration when choosing an online dating site is the amount of time you want to invest in the online dating process. Some sites require hours of time just to get your profile up while others allow you to answer a few simple questions and then let you move on to roaming their databases. Again, this ties back to what you are looking for in a relationship. Obviously, if you are looking for something more serious then you will want to put more of yourself out there so that like-minded people can find you. Likewise, if you are looking for something more serious you will want profiles that offer an extensive amount of information so that you can better choose who might be a good candidate for you.

    A good way to determine how much time a site will require from you is to look at the profiles. Some sites require demographic info, but little else, while others have profiles that seemingly go on forever. This is all to say, that being realistic and honest about how much time you want to devote to your online dating is necessary if you want to give yourself the best chance for success.

    Online dating sites make it easy for singles to meet other singles who are searching for the same things in a relationship. It’s a fun and exciting way to meet new people and to get to know them better. Many people have met their husband or wife through an online dating site and many others have dated and had a lot of great times together.

    After meeting someone and becoming online friends, many couples decide that it’s time to meet in person. When this happens you start making plans for that first date. Even if you know each other well online, it’s still going to be strange meeting in person for the first time.

    This is where your relationship takes on the form of traditional dating and most people are very nervous to finally see the person they have been talking to online, in the flesh. On top of being so nervous, you worry about what you’re going to talk about. You want to make a good impression so you don’t want that awkward silence that often creeps up on the first date ruining the moment.

    What do you do? Is there any way to ensure the date goes smoothly? How do you break that awkward silence on the first date if it does become a problem? Here are a few tips that can help.

    Relax and Be Yourself

    The first thing that you need to do is relax and just be yourself. If you’ve been honest online, you’ve got nothing to worry about. He or she obviously likes you just the way you are or they would not have agreed to meet you to begin with. In addition, they are probably just as nervous and worried as you are.

    If you over think things it will make it more difficult to have a nice date. Just think about some of the things that you talk about when you’re communicating online. Then pick out some of the easiest topics that you discuss and bring them up if you reach a point during the night when that awkward type of silence creeps in.

    Start Out Simple

    Just because you’re meeting in person doesn’t mean that you have to complicate things. Start the night out with simple conversation. After the greeting you can talk about what foods you want to try if you decided to meet for dinner, which is always a good choice for a first date. After the food is ordered, talk about your job in more detail or even the weather just to break the ice. You can also talk about a movie that you really liked or your favorite TV show.

    Don’t try to be too clever and come up with something dramatic. This is your first date, it’s not necessary. All you need to do now is to be polite, friendly and respectful. You’ve already made a good impression on the person or you would not have gotten this far, so just relax.

    Be a Good Listener

    Not only do you need to find things to talk about but you also need to be a good listener. Don’t interrupt your date when he or she is talking and don’t change the subject in the middle of a conversation. These things are considered rude but some people do it without thinking simply because they’re nervous. If you have a tendency of doing this, at least apologize for interrupting and you can even mention that you tend to ramble when you’re nervous. Who knows, it might give you another topic to discuss.

    What Not To Say

    Just as there are certain things that you should do and say, there are some things that you should not say. If you say the wrong things it can create the awkward silence that you’re trying so hard to avoid. Therefore, you need to know what not to say when you’re on your first date.

    While making a few jokes can lighten the mood, don’t try to be too funny. This could be taken the wrong way, like you think the date is a joke or it could make your date even more uncomfortable. They may enjoy your jokes in private when you’re taking online but they may not find the same things so funny when you’re in public.

    It’s also recommended that you reframe from talking about politics, ex-partners, anything sexual or any tragic events that occurred during your life on the first date. These are all topics that are very controversial, sad or upsetting. They are not something that you should ever try to discuss the first time you meet someone in person even if you have been communicating online.


    Just about everyone is nervous on their first date and worried about what to talk about. No one wants to deal with that awkward silence that happens so often and most everyone is afraid of messing up or saying the wrong thing. It’s a natural reaction. This is something that you’ve been anticipating for awhile, it’s natural to be nervous. However, if you can just relax and be yourself, everything should be just fine.

    Most people are pretty stressed out about dating and why not? Dating can be uncomfortable if you are new to the scene. Even if you are an old pro, dating can be intimidating depending on the circumstances. Even the people who have been single and dating for years struggle when they get a date from hell or an awkward situation to deal with. Every bit of help and advice you can find to make things easier is a good thing. Dating does not have to be a negative experience and you can even make the vast majority of your dates enjoyable. It is all about preparation and execution. Here are five easy dating tips for singles that will help to ensure your dates are usually home runs:

    Commit to a better screening process

    Perhaps no other single thing can ensure you a better percentage of good dates than this. It is amazing how people go out on dates with people they know nothing about and then complain about how they had a bad time. Not only is this dangerous, it is fairly ignorant. Find out about whom you are dating and get to know them a little for a change. This is one thing that we can take a tip from the old timers with…take some time to get to know someone.

    The world today is full of all kinds of dangers that you simply can’t ignore. If you are going to play Russian roulette with your dates, then you will eventually get burned. Instead, you really should give yourself a specific amount of time getting to know people in a laid back setting. You will have much better (and safer) dates if you do.


    Consider dating that “friend”


    The story is a familiar one; boy meets girl and falls in love but girl thinks of him as only a friend. Eventually, girl realizes that boy is pretty awesome dating material but boy is already spoken for. Pain and tears ensue from there and suddenly Nicholas Sparks writes a movie about it. You really should consider that special friend and make certain they are not more. Those are the best kinds of relationships in the world.


    Remember that honesty will keep you stress-free


    Occasionally you will have to tell a white lie or two. Everybody knows that and most everybody gets that. The truth is, however, that even the white lies are dangerous. Consider for a moment the following scenario:


    You meet a blind date for the first time and they are not your type in every single way. They eventually pick up on that vibe and ask you if you are attracted to them. You say no. They ask why not and you give them the typical, “It’s not you, it’s me” thing. What happens from there?

    They walk away thinking they might have a chance down the road. You get unwanted phone calls which leads to more lies and eventual anger and heartbreak from the poor dolt.
    Why not simply say, “I am not attracted to men with back hair that is longer than my head hair” or whatever the problem may be? You will have a moment of discomfort but no further contact after that. Which one sounds easier?

    Open your mind to the online dating world

    Most singles don’t even realize the incredible opportunities to weed out the bad matches that exist online. If you really want to streamline your dating pool and find the best of what is out there for you, then you should investigate online dating in all of its glory. They have online dating sites now for everyone and everything. The best part of this is that you can literally see what people like and dislike. The best online sites actually pair up and suggest dates that have similar characteristics.

    In the world of dating, every single bit of help you can get is appreciated. Why not let the online world of dating help you narrow the search a little? The expense is very negligible and you can save a great deal of insanity by ruling out certain sectors of your dating world. Why date a smoker when you don’t have to? Why go out with someone that loves cats when you know that you are allergic? The online world makes things so much easier if you let it work for you. Give it a shot!

    Never forget to consider what someone ultimately is looking for


    It is amazing to me how people skip right over this vital part of any dating situation. If you want to go out with someone, but you know they are not looking for a relationship, you need to make sure you are looking for that same thing. Many people take a situation like that and assume that they can change the person or make them into what they want. This is a sure-fire way to ruin a date. If you know you are on different paths, move on to someone who shares yours. Changing someone is never a good thing on the road to true happiness.

    These are only a few of the many dating tips that are out there to ease your dating stress. If you are dating often, using these tips will help you a great deal. The key is to look a bit closer at who you decide to date and using logic to decide who fits and who does not. Dating does not have to be stressful as we add most of the anxiety to our own situations.

    After joining an online dating site and meeting someone that you want to get to know better, the next step is to start spending time talking to them online. This is how you will get to know each other to find out if you want to meet in person and go on a date. However, it can be a challenge to keep things interesting when the only way you communicate is online.

    If you’re not careful, things can get very boring, very quickly. Since you haven’t met in person and you’re always communicating in the same type of environment, it can put a strain on the relationship. There are no outside distractions or anything to create an element of surprise in your relationship, unless you put it there.

    Over time, you may fall into a rut and begin talking to each other in the same tone and you may even find yourself talking about the same things over and over every time you talk. This will get monotonous after awhile. It could even end what possibly could be a great relationship before it has time to get started good because you end up getting bored with each other.

    So, how do you keep this from happening to your online relationship? First, you need to be aware that it can be a problem and don’t take it personally. Maintaining a long distances relationship with someone that you’ve never met in person before can be difficult. Therefore, instead of feeling a little hurt or disappointed that things are getting stall, make the effort to spice things up a bit. Here are 5 ways to keep your online relationship going strong to help keep things interesting.

    One: Be Unpredictable

    Conversations tend to follow the same routine after awhile. One way to keep things interesting is by being unpredictable. Talk about a variety of subjects instead of your day, how you feel or about work every time you talk. This mixes up the conversation and adds an element of surprise to your relationship. If you can’t think of what to say, try talking about something unusual that has happened in your life or in the world.

    If you’re always serious, make jokes once in a while and turn your conversation into one about fun and interesting facts. That’s not something they will be expecting so it will catch them off guard and put some excitement back in your conversations. Variety makes things more interesting even if you just talk about silly things that have nothing to do with each other.

    Two: Share Photos

    Share lots of photos with each other and this will give you things to talk about. You can send a variety of pictures of yourself so you can get a good idea of what each other looks like and the things you like such as how you like to dress. However, you have other options too.

    Find pictures of interesting landmarks in your state or of places you would like to visit one day and use these to start up conversations. It’s a great way to bring up some of the goals you have in life and what you hope the future will bring. This way, you can find out more about the other person in a fun and exciting way that is much better than asking them what plans they have for the future or what their goals are in life.

    Three: Take Advantage of Chat Rooms

    Many online dating sites have chat rooms where the members can gather together and get to know each other better in an online community. Usually, the environment is fun and entertaining and there are lots of people gathered in these chat rooms most any time day or night. You may have even met the person you’re talking to in the chat room and it’s a good place to spend some time now instead of just talking one on one all the time.

    It’s nice to talk to other people once in a while and more than likely, both of you have other friends in the community that you got to know when you were searching for your perfect match. When other people join in on the conversations, it helps to keep things fresh and interesting. All kinds of topics will come up in chat rooms and you’ll meet all types of people. It’ll help give you plenty to talk about later when you’re messaging each other in private again, too.

    Four: Talk on the Phone

    If you’ve been talking to the same person online long enough for the conversations to begin to get boring, then you should feel comfortable enough to give out your phone number. By talking to each other on the phone some of the time instead of just online, it mixes things up a lot more.

    The way you perceive the things you talk about will be different because you’re actually hearing the words in their voice instead of reading it yourself. It gives your conversations a fresh perspective and it’ll help keep things from getting boring. You can even exchange a few text messages throughout the day and skip the online conversations sometimes. This way, the next time you do talk online, it won’t seem so boring.

    Five: Use Video Chat

    Using video chat is the closest thing to talking to someone in person without actually meeting them. It takes things to a whole new level. It’s almost like being in the same room with the person because they can see your expressions and they’ll see how you react to the things being said. This helps to keep things interesting because it’s very exciting to actually get to see the person that you’re talking to.

    In addition, it makes it easier tell if that person seems sincere about your relationship or if they seem to be just stringing you along for some reason. Sometimes, a person’s expression says a lot more than the words they speak. It also lets you see the person so you know for sure that they match their profile information and photo, which in turn helps to reduce the risks of being scammed.


    All relationships need work and you have to put forth some effort into keeping your conversations from getting boring, if you want things to work out between you. That’s another way that online relationships are similar to any other type of bond between couples. If you can manage to keep your online relationship going strong, there’s a good chance that you have met your one true love.

    Keeping the conversations interesting and occasionally unpredictable can help to keep your online relationship going strong and it’s really not that hard. You just need to put a little thought into it and use your imagination.

    If you sense things are starting to get a little dull, add some excitement to it with one or more of the suggestions above. You’ll see a big difference in the way you communicate when you do. Don’t let your online relationship fall into a boring routine when there are so many different fun and exciting ways to spice things up. It’ll also help to add a bit of mystery to your relationship because your partner won’t know what to expect from you next and that can be a very good thing.

    Online dating sites are booming with singles looking for all types of relationships. Meeting online singles is different from meeting people face to face. In a way, it’s easier because you already know a few things about them just from reading the profiles. This makes it a little easier to start up a conversation because you can choose to talk to the people that you have something in common with and ignore the rest.

    Another thing that makes meeting online singles easier is the online communities where you can mingle and talk to lots of members in a group setting. Striking up a conversation with someone in a chat room or forums can help you get to know them better. You can move on to private conversations if you hit it off with someone.

    If you’re not familiar with online dating, it can be a little intimidating but it’s not as hard as you might think. There are a few things that you should know before joining a dating site that can make your experience a good one. Here are six great tips for meeting online singles

    Tip One: Pick the Best Dating Site for You

    When you decide to join an online dating site, the first thing that you’ll notice is that there are many of them to choose from. In a way, having so many options is great. It makes it possible to find a dating service that suits you perfectly. However, it can also be a little overwhelming because there are so many choices. How do you pick the right one?

    Some dating sites cater to all types of adults while others are created specifically for certain types of people. For example, some sites cater to young adults while others are designed for seniors. There are dating sites that cater to certain religions, sexual preferences, ethnic groups and so forth.  Decide which type of dating site suites you the best. It simply makes it easier to find someone looking for the same things that you are, when you choose a site that matches your age and lifestyle.

    Tip Two: Be Yourself

    The whole point of joining an online dating site is to find the perfect match for you. However, if you are not being yourself, that’s not going to happen. Keep in mind that eventually, you will meet the person you choose to pursue a relationship with and you don’t want them to discover that you were not completely truthful with them from the beginning.

    If you’re a shy person, say so. If you like being the center of attention, don’t be afraid to express this. If you prefer staying home relaxing on the couch instead of going out regularly, don’t pretend you love going out on the town. It may take longer to meet someone that feels the same way you do but being yourself always pays off in the end because the person you end up dating will truly be a good match.

    Tip Three: Find the Right Amount of Mystery

    When meeting online singles, a little bit of mystery can make things more fun and interesting. However, too much mystery will give off the impression that you’re being dishonest and that you have something to hide. You have to find the right amount of mystery without appearing to be sneaky or dishonest. Provide all of the information that is required for the profile and answer questions that you are directly asked but you don’t always have to volunteer too many things about yourself.

    Tip Four: Don’t Get Impatient

    Some people join online dating sites with the expectations of meeting someone right away and they end up very disappointed. It’s true that you can meet people online faster but it still takes time to get to know different people. It’s a lot like meeting someone in person. At first impression, they may seem like they have everything you’ve been searching for in a partner but after you get to know them better, you realize, there are a lot of qualities about them that you don’t like.

    The same is true when you meet people on dating sites. You may think you have found the perfect match based on the profile but after you get to know them a little better, you may find out that you are better off as friends. That’s the point of talking and getting to know each other better before actually meeting in person.

    This is what saves you a lot of time and effort because you don’t have to date someone for a while before discovering that a relationship is simply not going work. Don’t get impatient, keep an open mind and make friends first. Then, you’ll have a better idea if the person is a good match before planning a date. Some of the best matches start out as friendships.

    Tip Five: Don’t Let Scammers Scare You Away

    Online dating gets mixed reviews. Many people tell stories of how they met their wife or husband from online dating sites and how wonderful their life is. Others tell horror stories of how they got ripped off and swindled out of a lot of money. The fact is that there are a lot of scammers out there and they exist on every site but the number of them will vary depended on which site you use.

    For this reason, you have to be careful and take precautions when using an online dating site but don’t let scammers scare you away. There are things that you can do to protect yourself. There are a lot of legitimate singles on these sites looking for someone just like you. Learn how to spot fraud and how to avoid being scammed and you can have a positive experience when meeting online singles.

    Tip Six: Don’t Give Up Easily

    Not everyone you talk to and meet in person will be Mr. or Mrs. Right. You may have several dates before you find someone you want to continue dating and maybe eventually form a lasting relationship with. If the first few dates don’t work out, start over with someone new. There are thousands of singles out there and one of them is sure to be your perfect match.

    Things to Consider

    When meeting people online you want to have fun. Avoid taking everything someone says seriously and don’t get upset over little things. If someone offends you, you don’t have to talk to them anymore. If you argue with people and talk about them to others, even if they give you reason, it can make you look bad. You might get the reputation of being over sensitive or hard to get along with and that can make it hard to meet others.

    However, if someone is harassing you, then you’ll need to report it to the site management. The same is true if you run into someone that appears to be trying to commit some type of fraudulent activity. The more people you meet, the more chance it is to run into people that you don’t want to associate with but it also opens up many doors in which to find the match of your dreams.

    Your attitude has a lot to do with the type of experience you have. Have fun, make new friends and enjoy meeting online singles while searching for that special someone.

    Safety Rules for Singles Dating WebsitesSingles dating sites can be a great way to meet new people but it does come with some danger if you are not careful about the way you go about meeting your matches.


    Unfortunately, not everyone who is on singles dating sites is simply looking for a partner.  Some are actually predators that tell you what you want to hear, claim to have the same thoughts and value systems just so that they can exploit you and others.


    This is why it is important to know what you should and should not do on an singles dating site and how to protect yourself.  The following are four safety guidelines when using an online dating website:

    1. Use a Separate Email – You can have as many email accounts as you want and that you can keep up with. It is always suggested that you use a separate email for the purpose of online dating so you do not have to fear someone cyber stalking you.  There are ways that hackers can get into your email account and find information about you such as your address.  When you set up this new email account, do not fill in any of those fields such as phone number and address so even if your email is hacked, they are not getting any sensitive personal information.  Never give out any other email address to a person who you have met online that you do not yet trust or who you have not met.
    2. Never Divulge Financial Information – Most of those who are attempting to exploit another person are doing it for financial gain.  They are looking for what they deem to be a lonely person who they can charm and woo and who will eventually open their wallets and bank accounts.  These people seem genuine but all they are is scam artists.  They put on a fake face to you in order to gain your trust and once they have it, they start telling you all their sob stories to get you to offer them money.  Most of the time you are not even asked for anything, but because you are a good person you offer it.  To keep this from being an issue, never divulge your financial information to someone until you are absolutely sure they are genuine.
    3. Never Give out Your Home Address or Telephone Number – You should never list your home address or telephone number on an online dating website.  This allows those who are looking to commit crimes on your home or you easy access.  They can go to your house when they know you are at work and rob you or they can come by your house when you are home and hurt you.  Keep things general when they ask where you live.  You can tell them you live in the Southwest part of the city or in a certain district.  This way if someone is genuine, you still know if you live in the same area without revealing your exact location.  It is possible to stay safe and still offer some bits of information about yourself if you simply are a vague and not specific about your location.
    4. Always Meet in Public – This is probably one of the most important of all the safety guidelines because of the nature of singles dating.  Eventually you will want to meet your match so you can see if there are sparks in person as well as online and on the phone.  It is absolutely a bad idea to have them meet you at your house.  This goes along with not giving out your address to anyone online.  Choose a spot that is close to both your locations and have dinner or coffee when you meet.  You can go out to clubs and do others things as well but keep it all on the surface and never take someone home who you have just met.  This cannot be stressed enough, there is the thought that “I’ve talked to them for so long that I feel I know them, they cannot be bad”.  These same people are the ones who are on the news because they were robbed or worse.

    It is very important to protect yourself no matter what your dating situation is.  Even if you meet a person at a bar, the above guidelines are accurate and should be followed.  Keep in mind, these are not just for women, men are preyed upon just as much if not more than the ladies.  This is because ladies tend to expect to be exploited much more than men do.


    After all, she has a pretty face and is gorgeous and fun to be with, certainly she’s not out to get me.  But be wary, she is and will get you if you leave yourself open to her by not protecting your home, your money and your heart.

    Men are seen to be much tougher than women so they are not at risk but they are if not more so because of this.  A woman can leech a man’s bank account just as easily, if not more so, than a man can leech a woman’s.  There are few men who can stand to see a woman cry and if he cares about her, he will do what he can to help her.  This is why both men and women should protect themselves at all times when using an singles dating site to find love.